The crow’s law is the best medicine for handling parent-child relationships. When a child ignores, refutes, or disrespects you, the wise approach is as follows

Once upon a time, there was a crow that, due to its unpopular call, decided to leave its place of life and search for a more friendly environment.

Its friend Pigeon advised it, ‘If you don’t change your voice, you will encounter the same problem wherever you fly.

‘ After hearing this, the crow suddenly realized and began to adjust itself. This story reveals the “Crow’s Law”: when faced with interpersonal problems, what truly needs to be changed is oneself, not the external environment.

This rule also applies in parent-child relationships. If a child ignores, refutes, or disrespects you, the first step parents should take is not to blame the child, but to reflect on their own parenting style.

The essence of parent-child conflict: Children’s problems are often a mirror for parents. Yesterday, a friend confided in me, and her relationship with her son has reached a “freezing point”.

When her son came back from school and entered the room, she tried to ask, “How was school today. ” but only received one sentence: “Don’t ask, I’m so annoyed.

” At the dinner table, she reminded him to eat vegetables and drink more soup. Her son found her verbose and picked up his phone to pretend not to hear.

When she couldn’t help but roar, “You’re so impolite, who did you learn from. ” The child didn’t even look up and said, “Like you.

” This sentence made her so angry that she almost flipped over the table. After listening to her story, I asked, “Do you think your child doesn’t respect you because your attitude towards him is not respectful enough.

” She was stunned and then admitted in a low voice, “Maybe, sometimes I do get angry easily, always thinking that he is still young and doesn’t need to care too much about his feelings.

” In fact, a child’s disrespect is often a projection of their parents’ behavior. The way parents treat their children, the children will respond in the same way.

When a child is disobedient, parents should first ask themselves three questions: 1. Is my communication style suitable for the child.

Children are independent individuals who crave to be understood and respected. If parents always communicate with their children in a commanding and accusatory tone, such as “do homework quickly” or “stop playing with your phone”, the child will only feel disgusted and thus distance themselves from you.

Try a different way, for example, when your child is playing with their phone, you can gently remind them: “After playing for a while, let’s plan today’s homework.

” This communication method is more easily accepted by children. 2. Are my expectations too high. Many parents have unrealistic expectations for their children, always hoping that they will perform “perfectly”.

However, high pressure only makes children feel anxious and even resistant to their parents. When a child’s grades are not ideal, don’t blame them immediately, but try to understand: “Did this exam make you feel disappointed.

Do you need me to help you analyze it together. ” This attitude can make the child feel supported, not criticized.

Have I respected the boundaries of my child. Smart parents know how to let go at the right time and give their children some independent space.

If parents interfere too much with their children’s lives, such as frequently checking their phones and asking too many details, it will only make the children develop a rebellious mentality.

Respect children’s privacy and communicate when necessary: ‘I respect your choice, but I hope we can have more communication, what do you think.

‘ This will make children more willing to open up. How to use the ‘crow’s law’ to resolve parent-child conflicts.

Starting from self reflection, the core of the “Crow’s Law” is to reflect on oneself. When your relationship with your child is tense, try asking yourself, ‘Did I unintentionally make your child feel stressed or disrespected.

‘ Adjusting your approach from your own perspective is more effective than simply blaming your child.

When using empathy instead of criticizing children emotionally, parents’ criticism will only add fuel to the fire.

It’s better to calm their emotions first and then solve the problem. For example, when a child gets angry after being criticized by a teacher, you can say, “I know you feel uncomfortable after being criticized.

Do you want to tell me what happened. ” The power of empathy can help children let go of their guard and be more willing to listen to your advice.

3. Be a role model for children. Children’s behavior often stems from imitating their parents. If parents can lead by example, such as patiently listening to their children’s demands and controlling their emotions, their children will also learn these positive interaction patterns.

At the end: Less nagging, more respect for good parent-child relationships, not established through preaching or punishment, but cultivated through respect and empathy.

Parenting expert Laura Markham once said, “The most important rule in parenting is for parents, not for children.

” When a child ignores or refutes you, the parents’ reaction determines the direction of the relationship going forward.

Wise parents know how to adjust themselves using the ‘crow’s law’. They should be less nagging and blaming, more respectful and understanding, and children will naturally respond with more trust and love.

This is the most effective way of parent-child interaction and the true meaning of education. If you think today’s article is helpful to you, give a thumbs up and read it to let more people see it.

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