Talking nonsense before bedtime for half a year, the child’s changes are astonishing

Sometimes, the secrets of parenting are hidden in some of the most inconspicuous little things. For example, chatting a few “nonsense” with children every night.

At first, I didn’t consider this matter to be particularly important. I just felt that ending a busy day and spending a few minutes chatting with my child was a way to relax.

But after persisting for half a year, I found that this seemingly insignificant habit actually had a very positive impact on the child.

The “nonsense” that starts with one or two sentences and initially starts with “bedtime chat” is purely accidental.

One day before going to bed, I casually asked my child, “What’s the fun thing today. ” The child’s initial reaction was perfunctory: “There’s nothing fun.

” So I continued to ask, “Really, there isn’t anything. Have you forgotten. ” The child thought for a moment and suddenly smiled, saying, “By the way, I won a skipping rope competition with my classmates today.

” In this way, a simple question triggered a long string of memories for the child. From that day on, every few minutes before bedtime, we began to casually chat about small things in life: interesting things that happened at school; Small animals seen on the road; Opinions on the plot of a certain picture book; Or some imaginative assumptions, such as’ What would you do if you became a superhero.

‘These topics have no limitations and do not pursue’ depth ‘. It’s more like a relaxed ‘nonsense’, but it’s precisely this kind of conversation that allows me to slowly glimpse into the child’s inner world.

Six months later, the child’s changes were astonishing. After persisting for six months, I was pleasantly surprised to find that the child had undergone many positive changes.

At the beginning of improving expression ability, the child often spoke incoherently and sometimes needed me to help him “translate”.

But with daily communication, he became more willing to express himself, and his logic became clearer, and his language organization ability also significantly improved.

For example, he can now not only describe events, but also add his own emotions: “Today the teacher praised me for doing a good job in my homework, and I am very happy in my heart.

” This ability to actively express emotions was not available before. Enhancing observation skills: Our topics often start with ‘What’s fun today.

‘ Gradually, children become more adept at observing details in life. One day, he suddenly said to me, ‘Mom, I noticed that the leaves on the roadside have many colors, some are shiny green, and some have already started to turn yellow.

‘ This made me realize that his observation ability and sensitivity to nature are improving. Children with rich imagination are increasingly interested in some imaginative questions, such as “If I were a bird, would I feel that humans fly too slowly.

” This unrestrained imagination makes me feel that chatting is not only an expression, but also an extension of their creativity.

The parent-child relationship becomes closer. Through these ‘nonsense’, the child begins to share more secrets from school and friends with me, and even actively seeks help from me for some confusion.

The trust and security between parents and children are the changes that I value the most. Talking nonsense before bedtime has three major benefits for children.

Emotional sorting. Chatting before bedtime is a good time for children to release their emotions and organize their thoughts.

Whether it’s happy things or troubles, you can talk to your parents before going to bed to help them learn self-regulation.

The improvement of language and thinking abilities provides children with ample opportunities for language practice through daily communication.

They not only learn to express their ideas, but also gradually master the logic and organization of storytelling through parental guidance.

Strengthening parent-child connection before bedtime is the quietest and most private time of the day.

By chatting nonsense, children feel the attention and support of their parents, and this unconditional companionship lays a solid foundation for the parent-child relationship.

How to conduct high-quality ‘nonsense’ chat. If you also want to cultivate this habit of chatting with your child before bedtime, you may want to try the following suggestions: Open ended questioning should avoid asking closed ended questions such as “Did you behave well today.

” Try asking “What did you feel particularly happy about today. ” “Did you feel confused about anything.

” Open ended questioning can better guide children to express themselves. Empathetic response: When a child shares their experience, don’t rush to evaluate, but express empathy first: “It sounds like you were happy today.

” “Did this make you a little angry. ” This will make the child feel understood. Expand the topic appropriately according to the child’s topic, and add some extended content appropriately.

For example, if a child says they like a picture book, you can talk about the plot or characters in the book to stimulate deeper thinking.

Maintain a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. Do not turn chatting into “interrogation” or “education”, but communicate in a friendly and natural tone.

Make the child feel that this is their exclusive time with their parents. The so-called ‘nonsense’ written at the end is actually the most effective form for parents to accompany their children.

Seemingly casual conversation, but hiding a warm power. The parent-child relationship is brought closer in small moments, and the child’s expression ability, imagination, and observation skills quietly grow in these few minutes.

If you haven’t started yet, why not start with tonight’s bedtime “nonsense”. Persist in chatting for the first half of the year, and you will also be pleasantly surprised to find that your child’s changes will exceed your imagination.

I hope our children can find their own growth motivation in these warm moments, and we can also gain a happier parenting experience.

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