In family education, if parents do these 4 things well, children will be more willing to listen to you

Click on the blue text to follow us. When parents take a step back, children can take a big step forward.

In this era where only children are common, how many parents are using “excessive care” to put an invisible shackle on their children.

Parents carrying two backpacks and holding two umbrellas can be seen everywhere in life. Is this seemingly meticulous care quietly depriving children of opportunities for growth.

Starting from a table tennis match, it was a sunny weekend and I happily invited my classmates to play table tennis in the park.

This should have been a joyful movement, but due to the different educational methods of parents, it presents a completely different picture.

Happy parents packed their bags as if they were going camping, bringing all kinds of items such as water, snacks, changing clothes, sunscreen, band aids, etc.

But the happy classmates appeared light and simple, carrying only a water cup and a racket as they went out.

Behind this stark contrast, it reflects the vastly different educational philosophies of the two families.

On the court, Happy Dad frequently stops the game, sometimes worrying about his child’s thirst and needing to be watered, sometimes guiding his hitting posture, and occasionally reminding his child to pay attention to safety.

His enthusiasm and concern actually interrupted the rhythm of the children’s games, making Happy appear restrained and passive on the field.

In contrast, parents of classmates choose to watch quietly on the sidelines, giving timely encouragement and allowing their children to focus on the game itself.

The negative impact of overprotection, this meticulous care approach that appears to be for the good of children, actually harbors many hidden problems.

Overprotection can lead to: children lacking independent living abilities: when parents do everything for them, children lose the opportunity to learn life skills.

From organizing backpacks to handling interpersonal relationships, these abilities that should have been gradually mastered during the growth process may not have been fully developed.

Weak autonomy: Long term dependence on parental decision-making often results in children lacking the ability to think independently.

Being timid and indecisive when faced with choices, easily influenced by others. Poor resilience: Flowers grown in a greenhouse cannot withstand wind and rain.

Children who grow up under excessive protection often struggle to adapt to setbacks and retreat when faced with difficulties.

Limited creativity: Everything has standard answers and fixed patterns, and children lose the space to explore and try, which limits their creativity and imagination.

How to scientifically ‘take a step back’. Parents’ retreat is not about letting go, but about transforming their role from a ‘butler who takes care of everything’ to a ‘wise person who guides them’.

This transformation requires: providing decision-making space, allowing children to independently arrange their spare time, respecting their interests and hobbies, allowing them to make mistakes within a safe range, cultivating independent thinking and decision-making abilities.

Moderate letting go: not taking care of things within their capabilities, giving opportunities and time to try, allowing them to learn from failures, and cultivating self-care abilities.

Timely encouragement: affirming children’s progress and efforts, providing spiritual support in the face of setbacks, helping to analyze problems, finding methods, establishing positive feedback mechanisms, establishing boundaries, clarifying family rules and bottom lines, allowing children to take responsibility for their own choices, maintaining a position on principle issues, cultivating a sense of responsibility, cultivating independent thinking ability, and independent thinking ability.

Independent thinking is a lifelong skill that can be used, Parents should: create thinking space: provide open questions, encourage multi perspective thinking, respect different viewpoints, guide rational analysis, train decision-making ability: practice from small things, allow trial and error, and correct, guide weighing, cultivate judgment, build self-confidence: affirm independent opinions, support rational decisions, encourage persistence, cultivate independent thinking, cultivate a balanced personality.

Education requires wisdom, neither overprotection nor complete indulgence. The key lies in: grasping the scale: adjusting the disciplinary methods according to the characteristics of the age group, finding a balance between safety and exploration, gradually letting go, establishing mutual trust, and adjusting in a timely manner: observing the child’s acceptance level, modifying strategies according to the actual situation, maintaining openness and communication, and growing together.

Establishing an example: leading by example, demonstrating correct behavior, conveying values through practical actions, being a spiritual guide for children, and creating a good family atmosphere.

Conclusion: Just like a gardener cultivating flowers and plants, it is necessary to provide sufficient nutrients and let them withstand the test of wind and rain.

Overprotection can make children vulnerable, while moderate letting go can help them grow in setbacks and make progress through experimentation.

The wisdom of parents lies not in taking care of everything, but in knowing how to step back at the right time, giving children space and courage to grow.

So, in the process of educating children, do you choose to be an omnipotent “protective umbrella” or are you willing to be a guide who knows how to let go.

What do you think about this.