I did three things right by personally transforming my daughter from “procrastinating” to “being proactive”. The methods were simple and effective

As a mother, I have always been troubled by my daughter’s habit of procrastination. She is always slow to do things, always procrastinating until she wakes up in the morning, and procrastinating on her homework time and time again.

At first, I always tried to change her by constantly urging and blaming her, but the effect was counterproductive.

Until I realized that my approach did not fundamentally solve the problem, but instead exacerbated her procrastination.

So, I decided to change my approach and adopt a more scientific and proactive approach to help her overcome procrastination.

As I gradually saw the change, I also gained a lot of experience. Here, I would like to share three things I have done that have helped my daughter transition from being procrastinating to being proactive, with simple and effective methods.

1. Stop urging and give control back to the child. I often stare at my daughter while she is doing things, constantly urging her, “Hurry up, why haven’t we started yet.

” “Why is eating so slow. ” “When can we finish our homework. ” I think these reminders can help her improve efficiency, but in reality, the opposite is true.

My daughter has become more impatient and has developed a dislike for my demands, which in turn exacerbates her procrastination behavior.

I realized that children also have their own rhythm and emotions, and too much urging will only make them develop a rebellious mentality.

So, I decided to ‘shut up’ and no longer directly interfere with her every step. At the beginning, the daughter did not immediately change, on the contrary, she continued to work slowly.

Especially in the morning, I don’t rush her to get up at all, but give her a gentle reminder: “Get up early today, time is running out.

” At first, she was often late, but after experiencing the consequences of being late several times, she gradually realized the importance of completing tasks on time.

Now, she no longer needs me to urge her in the morning and can prepare herself within the designated time.

This non intervention approach initially made me anxious, but later I discovered that not only did my daughter work faster, but our relationship also became more harmonious.

Because I gave her space to learn how to manage her time on her own. 2. Guide the child to self-management and stimulate her inner motivation.

In the past, I was always overly worried that my daughter would be criticized for not completing her homework, so I kept urging her to do it.

Not only did I feel anxious, but my daughter also felt immense pressure. Her procrastination not only did not improve, but became even more negative due to my urging.

So, I decided to change my approach and teach my daughter self-management. I had a deep conversation with my daughter and told her, ‘Homework is your own responsibility.

If you can’t finish it, you have to face the consequences yourself. ‘ I also communicated with the teacher to ensure that if she didn’t complete the homework on time, the teacher would give appropriate criticism.

Through this approach, the daughter felt the pressure but also understood the importance of responsibility.

In addition, I have also started helping my daughter plan her time. I worked with her to create a weekly schedule, allowing her to arrange her daily homework and activities on her own.

Every time we make a plan, I patiently listen to her ideas and help her balance her study and entertainment time.

This approach gave her a greater sense of control over her time, gradually cultivating her self-discipline and self-management abilities.

3. Encourage more and criticize less to cultivate children’s confidence. In previous education, I sometimes criticized my daughter for procrastinating on homework, which often led her to self doubt and become even lazier.

And she seems to believe that no matter what she does, her parents are not satisfied, which makes her lack motivation and initiative to do things.

Now, I realize that excessive criticism not only fails to motivate children, but can also hurt their confidence.

So I started to shift my strategy and focus more on the areas where she did well, giving timely encouragement and praise.

For example, when she completes her homework within the designated time, I would say to her, ‘You did great today, completed the homework quickly and seriously.

‘ This positive feedback gradually made my daughter realize that she could do better and also gave her confidence in her abilities.

Whenever my daughter makes some small progress, I praise her. These positive feedbacks continuously strengthen her self-management ability and gradually stimulate her inner motivation, making her more proactive.

Conclusion: Looking back on this journey, from the initial anxiety and urging, to the patience and letting go now, although the process was full of challenges, I witnessed my daughter’s growth bit by bit.

She is no longer the child who always procrastinates in the morning, nor is she the student who lacks a sense of responsibility for homework.

She learned to manage her own time, handle her own affairs, and became more confident and independent.

In fact, educating children is not about constantly urging and scolding them, but about giving them more autonomy and a sense of responsibility.

With appropriate letting go and encouragement, children can find their own rhythm, learn self-management, and ultimately transition from “procrastinating” to “being proactive”.

As parents, we need to guide our children patiently and intelligently, giving them space to grow, rather than imposing our own anxiety and control on them.

As long as we persist in doing the right things, children will definitely become better and better. If you think the article is helpful to you, give a thumbs up and read it to let more people see it.

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