Actually, children understand the principles, but they can’t do it

As the final exams are approaching, as parents, it is natural to supervise and assist children in their final review.

Before starting the review, my child sister and I completed the following tasks: 1. Analyze the strengths and weaknesses of each of her courses and develop a review scope.

2. Arrange review methods and time periods for each subject. 3. Set target scores for each subject. In the process of sorting, I found that her plan and arrangement were more comprehensive and in-depth than I had imagined, and she also clearly knew where the key points to be promoted in each subject were.

However, even so, in the process of pushing forward her daily review plan, she still encounters situations such as lack of time management in subject management and time arrangement, and problems like snakehead and tiger tail in projects.

For example, this weekend, I completed a two-hour task according to plan in the morning, and in the afternoon, I completely let myself go, sleeping, snacking, playing with my phone, and not to mention, saying, “I was already tired from studying last week and needed to relax.

I think most children in the world are similar, they understand the principles, but they always can’t.

The vast majority of them understand many big truths and know better than anyone else what they should do, but they often find it difficult to put them into practice.

This is because: first, they lack internal motivation. Learning goals are not clear, learning interest is insufficient, and children may not be clear about the specific meaning and goals of learning, so it is difficult to generate sustained learning motivation.

Second, many children lack action. Although I understand the truth verbally, I lack the ability to translate it into practical action.

This may be due to their lack of specific action plans, self-control, self-discipline, etc. However, some children may hesitate and be afraid to try easily due to fear of failure, being criticized, or being influenced by others.

3. There is a disconnect between cognition and behavior. Many children may only understand the truth verbally, but fail to hone and enhance their cognition through practical actions.

Many of them only stay at a shallow level of understanding of the principles, without truly recognizing the deep meanings and practical methods behind these principles.

So, don’t just think that children truly understand just because they verbally “understand”. What we need to focus on is whether they have truly put it into practice in their actions, while helping them develop specific plans at the ability level, cultivate their self-control, self-discipline, self-esteem, and self-improvement abilities, and provide timely positive feedback to help them move from “knowing the way” to “doing it”.

1. We can work with children to set specific learning goals and stimulate their interest in learning, so that they understand the meaning and value of learning for themselves.

You can also try presenting learning content in an interesting way to stimulate children’s interest and curiosity in learning, thereby transforming them from “asking me to learn” to “I want to learn”.

2. Developing action skills to help children develop specific action plans, cultivate their self-control, self-discipline, and self-improvement abilities.

3. Provide sufficient encouragement and support to children, enabling them to persevere in the face of difficulties and challenges.

4. Teach children by example, let them know what to do, and also know how to do it. As parents, we should lead by example and influence our children with our own actions.

For example, if we want to tell children that they should arrange their time reasonably, we need to teach them how to arrange their study and entertainment time well, how to coordinate what to do first and then what to do, how to coordinate their own time with others’ time, how to complete tasks within the designated time, and so on.

Only by mastering these abilities can children consciously and self-control arrange their time well. Through the above methods, children can better understand and practice the big truths they have learned, transform them into practical actions, and truly move from “knowing” to “doing”.