Why is it said that the underlying logic of a child’s inner drive is the parent-child relationship

Only by replacing criticism and scolding with understanding and patience can we truly cultivate children’s enthusiasm for learning.

Dad is reading an original: Think Hey, I’m coken. The true purpose of education is to inspire children’s inner passion and curiosity, not just to impart knowledge.

As Einstein said, education is not about learning facts, but about training thinking. After reading it carefully, you will definitely be inspired.

Once a child enters primary school, they may encounter some problems to varying degrees, such as strained family relationships, poor learning attitudes, or unsatisfactory grades.

Usually, after these problems arise, there are solutions available. If children are guided well in the early grades of elementary school, they will hardly have so much trouble in the later grades or adolescence.

In this way, you and your child can avoid many unnecessary troubles. Children have a natural desire to actively explore the world when they are young.

They are full of curiosity about the unknown, and theoretically, every child should have an initiative to explore learning.

At first, when you tell children stories, take them to draw, or teach them knowledge, they won’t resist or even have any resistance, because for them, it’s as natural as eating and drinking water.

However, why did they become increasingly averse to learning later on. Because the feelings they gain from learning have always been negative.

Many parents’ attitudes are speechless, and their children’s enthusiasm for learning is often undermined by them.

If a child reads, memorizes, or writes incorrectly, do not rush to remind or criticize them. You can mark it next to him and tell him slowly after he finishes.

Otherwise, children may worry about being scolded and unable to concentrate during the learning process.

Many parents’ accompanying students are actually seeking opportunities to criticize their children. If this happens every day, the children will inevitably develop a dislike for learning.

Some parents may disagree, but parents are the ones who can most influence their children. The child is still young and can tolerate your influence.

When your child grows up, you may need him to teach you how to be a good person. Therefore, the real thing to do in primary school is not to undermine children’s learning initiative.

Don’t always give negative experiences to children while they are learning, such as simple addition and subtraction.

As long as the child’s intelligence is normal, they can learn. He can also memorize the multiplication table.

It may be slow at the beginning of the semester, but you can master it by the end of the semester. Since he can eventually learn, why is he in a hurry to succeed now.

The difference between being one day earlier or one day later, or one year earlier or one year later, is essentially not significant.

You just feel that your grades are slightly lower and lack a sense of security. The second issue is that children are not learning for your sense of security.

Each child’s brain development time is different, just like their height. Some children grow slowly, but they will catch up.

If you become impatient when he is slow, scold him every day, impose pressure, and turn your anxiety into a negative experience for the child, the child will develop a physiological aversion to learning, manifested as laziness, procrastination, and actually disinterest in learning.

He is still young and cannot show it. The situation will be different during adolescence. So, what can we do.

Just do two things, other approaches may backfire. Firstly, maintain at least ten minutes of casual chat with your child every day and take some time to treat them as if they were your child, only chatting and not talking about studying, without appearing smart.

In this way, the parent-child relationship is established, and the child’s sense of happiness comes from this, which in turn stimulates initiative.

As Mencius said, ‘To acquire talents from all over the world and educate them’, a good parent-child relationship is an important cornerstone for a child’s growth.

If you don’t listen now, children may close their doors during adolescence. Secondly, there is not much knowledge in primary school, and the so-called homework and learning intensity are artificially increased.

Don’t care too much about homework and exams, but it’s not about not doing them, it’s about maintaining a calm mindset.

Don’t rush when you see the score after the exam, the wrong questions are more important. Even if you are wrong by thirty points, it doesn’t matter, there are few elementary school knowledge points.

Accompany your child with care to read questions and explain knowledge points, and their scores will naturally improve.

Some parents believe that their children are unwilling to watch, but the essence of their aversion to learning is that they dislike the negative energy you bring to their studies.

Children are not afraid to read too many questions and are afraid of being scolded for making mistakes.

The key is to control emotions and not transmit anxiety to children. Learning is a marathon, there is no need to compare grades every day, and even grades throughout elementary school are not as important.

Maintaining a parent-child relationship and a child’s passion for learning will help them stand out in middle school and college.

As long as we patiently guide and help children cultivate good habits from an early age, the effect is far better than most of our futile or even repetitive efforts.

The key to education lies in igniting the flames within children’s hearts, rather than just filling their knowledge base.

Through proper guidance, children can not only achieve success in their studies, but also confidently and tenaciously move forward on their future life path.

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Practical wisdom is better than empty talk. Father’s cognitive awakening is recommended reading. When you don’t compete with your child, they will receive the deepest love.