When we take resilience as an example, it is the virtuous cycle of education

When parents set an example of resilience in life, children grow strong in responsibility and autonomy.

Valuing self-cultivation and improving one’s life status is the fundamental way to achieve effective education and promote children’s comprehensive development.

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Yesterday when I was having coffee with friends at Tim’s after work, I said that I might not want to stay this time and let the time go to deal with this meaningless person and matter.

There must be a cause and a result, and each person should take responsibility. Any outcome is a good thing for me, “he said, admiring me from the bottom of his heart:” I always have my own goals and positioning in life, and many times I take the initiative to do difficult but correct things.

Indeed, being alive is a state of being: after watching OpenAI Sam explain the new generation of inference models O3 and O3 Mini at 4:30 this morning, I communicated with the US side about the latest ideas on model training and felt that sleeping in life is unnecessary, which can be considered a geek expression of love for AI.

Follow your heart and keep a smile in the face of difficulties. I believe that difficulties will eventually pass and do the right thing.

It reminds me of the educational philosophy of Jin Weichun, the founder and writer of Business Weekly, and I would like to share it with my readers: we should let children see that they are adaptable to everything that happens.

I strongly agree with this viewpoint, as I may have experienced too many things and gradually internalized it into my own cognition.

When children see us living well like this, they will be willing to follow you and become responsible and adaptable individuals.

The rest is for the child to find their own way out, which is a virtuous cycle. The adaptability of life is always useful for children, so as ourselves, we should value our own life status.

When one undergoes changes, the issue of children’s education is naturally resolved. In the process of educating children, we first need to demonstrate adaptability to life.

To show children that being a father is someone who can face everything that happens and has the ability to adapt.

Children will feel that our living conditions are good and willing to become like us. This positive impact will also make children become responsible and adaptable individuals.

As for the future, children will find their own way out, which is the true virtuous cycle. A child with this ability will gradually learn or acquire the ability to either act or accept.

Children will become very flexible and adaptable. When he sees us facing unfavorable situations, he will interpret them in different ways and even find a sense of humor from them.

In this way, he had permission and acceptance in his heart, and ultimately found a new way out. Children do not necessarily need to become “academic overachievers” like their parents, nor do they necessarily have to work to the extreme.

He doesn’t necessarily need to learn those specific skills and achievements. However, the adaptability of life will always be useful to him.

Therefore, as parents, the most important thing for us is to value our own life status. When one undergoes changes, many educational issues will naturally be resolved.

We need to ‘fix our own homework’, only in this way can we improve our life status. When your life condition improves, your child’s growth process does not require too much intervention.

If parents themselves are not living well but try to teach their children, it is basically delusional.

Many parents have the opposite effect in parenting because they always go too far. In fact, we should avoid being too obsessed with playing the role of parents and forgetting to take responsibility for our own lives.

Living well is the most important thing. The core theme of education in China from ancient times to the present is actually only one, which is to “live a good life”.

The traditional education of Confucianism essentially tells us that parents should set an example through their own words and actions.

If parents can live well for themselves, then the problems of family harmony, world peace, and governance will be easily solved.

Taoism emphasizes the cultivation of a ‘real person’, while Buddhism cultivates a ‘bodhisattva’, all of which stem from living out the true essence of life.

However, our current education, starting from kindergarten and continuing through the work stage, has very little content related to ‘living a good life’.

From a historical perspective, the most important thing has been forgotten, which is how to live one’s life as it should be and let life bloom.

This ability is the most important thing in our lives. As the sculptor Michelangelo said, he was not carving something, but discovering the existing image in the stone and removing the excess parts.

This process of ‘removing excess’ is exactly what Laozi called’ the Tao is losing day by day ‘. ‘Loss’ means removing the unnecessary parts.

Everyone has their own most beautiful image, which is already in the ‘stone’. We need to see and come up with such an image, rather than blindly transferring knowledge from the outside and trying to solve problems.

From the perspective of life, what we need is not ‘learning more and more’, but ‘losing more and more for the sake of the Tao’.

This means an inner self-cleaning process, clearing away the blockages in order to allow the energy of life to flow.

This kind of cleaning will ultimately bring about a sense of emptiness. The highest efficiency of life is actually this emptiness.

By organizing and cleaning, constantly reducing unnecessary impurities in life, ultimately becoming ethereal.

When life reaches emptiness, it can truly live in the present moment. Therefore, the most important thing is to constantly clean up, as the Tao gradually deteriorates, until it eventually becomes emptiness.

The best parents are those who possess emptiness. In the end, if we want to become such a person, we must first make ourselves adaptable and live like this, so that we can truly help our children.

If we always instill our own anxiety and concerns in children, they will completely shield themselves from these influences in order to protect themselves.

In the end, we may feel that our child doesn’t take us seriously, and we may start to have conflicts with them.

As fathers, demonstrating the ability to actively respond to life changes in front of our children not only inspires their sense of responsibility and adaptability, but also encourages them to independently find their own path in life, forming a virtuous cycle.

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