The power of suggestion is very strong, some words should never be said by children

Every word from parents is a seed in their children’s hearts, determining their future appearance. Never underestimate the power of suggestion.

Negative suggestions may trap children in the shadows of childhood, while positive suggestions can bring infinite possibilities and beauty to their lives.

Dad is reading an original: Desert Off road Hey, I’m Koken. Xiti’s daughter scored 80 points in the mid-term English exam, which was originally hovering around 95.

Other subjects: Mathematics 98, Chinese 91, Science 90. Spend some time on the weekend to review and analyze the performance of each subject in detail.

The math score shows the daughter’s strong ability and good comprehension in this subject; But the English proficiency is relatively low, which may indicate areas that require additional attention and support.

Have an open and honest conversation with your daughter about her mid-term grades for the second semester of 2024, and gain a deeper understanding of her own feelings about each subject.

My biggest realization is that my daughter has her own learning cognition, which is profound and has her own positioning in the class.

What I need to do is: review during the collaboration period, set specific goals, follow up and adjust, motivate and support.

(I will write a separate review method) However, the prerequisite for all of this is the need for deep communication skills with children, and effective communication often requires suggestive guidance to motivate children, but it cannot be negative.

Let’s first take a look at deep communication methods and how to guide children through suggestion. We often say that prohibition only increases temptation.

This is the ‘white bear effect’ in psychology: the more we do not allow children to do something, the more they are motivated to do it.

The more it is prevented, the more likely it is to happen. Many studies have repeatedly proven that children always believe what their parents say about themselves and turn it into their own beliefs.

Every word we say to children is not only a transmission of language, but also a seed of emotions and cognition.

These seeds are deeply rooted in their young hearts, gradually sprouting and shaping their self-awareness and behavior.

The key is here, pick up your notebook and write it down. So, how to use positive and constructive suggestions to guide children.

We can use the FFC parenting model: Fact+Feeling+Compare. For example, when discussing mid-term exam results with my child and mother, we can use this positive communication method: Fact: “You scored 98 points in math this time, which is really great, 80 points in English, 91 points in Chinese, and 90 points in science.

Overall, your grades are very good. You can make progress, and you will definitely be able to do so next time Motivation and Support: “If you have anything you want to improve on or any difficulties you need help with, tell Mom and we can solve them together.

Your efforts make me very proud. No matter how your grades are, the important thing is that you have done your best, and I believe you can do better next time.

” Through this approach, not only does it affirm the child’s success, but it also expresses support and understanding for them when they encounter difficulties.

This positive communication can enhance his confidence, stimulate his internal drive, and motivate him to strive for improvement in the future and continue to maintain good study habits.

At the same time, this communication method also helps establish trust and an open communication environment between us and children.

2. To avoid frequent occurrences of “don’t” in daily life, we can try to avoid using negative expressions like “don’t” as much as possible.

To continuously remove ‘don’t’ in the long run, children will become more cooperative and sensible in a subtle way.

For example: 1. Replace “Don’t cry” with “Dad hug, what happened that made you unhappy. ” 2. Replace “Don’t interrupt” with “Listen to Dad finish speaking first, Dad will listen to you later.

” 3. Replace “Don’t get angry” with “Dad is also angry now, but we need to calm down and talk properly”.

2. It is important to develop study habits. In terms of learning, help children establish addictive study habits.

Many children and adults do not enjoy learning because of the “peak to end law” of psychology. When we look back on an experience, we only focus on whether the peak and ending are pleasant.

If both stages are positive, the overall experience will be wonderful. In the process of learning, the peak often comes from encountering difficulties, and the end often comes from feeling tired.

Both stages are negative, so everyone easily feels that learning is painful. To help children enjoy learning, we need to enable them to experience positive peaks and endings in their learning.

For example, breaking down big learning goals into easy to accomplish small tasks makes learning relatively simple.

When a child completes each small task, the brain produces a sense of pleasure, and the peak experience is naturally positive.

When a child finishes a task, he can say: “Very good. Dad doesn’t use AI as fast as you do. ” When the main tasks are completed, he can say: “Really powerful, let’s take a break and go to the wetland park.

” The happiness brought by task completion, plus positive hints and rewards given by parents, will stimulate the child’s internal drive and self-confidence.

Finally, he will firmly believe: “In learning, I can do it. ” Note that the following golden sentence can be more emphasized with the child: “This matter is up to you the final say.

” “Daughter, can you help dad. ” “Wow, you can do it faster than dad. ” “Daughter, Dad believes you can do it.

” Many words can be said sincerely when we have the opportunity, and the child can feel it. Every child is different, and every parent is also different, but parents all over the world love their children with the same heart.

Every word and action written by parents in the end lays the foundation for their children’s lives. Perhaps we cannot pave the way for them, but we can light up the beacon in their hearts.

Because every child deserves to be treated gently and to have infinite possibilities for the future. Let us sow the seeds of hope with love and wisdom, accompanying children towards a better tomorrow.

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