If you have a teenager, please persist in giving

If you have a teenager, it’s a lucky thing. A child who has been carefully cared for for for more than ten years is about to grow up and face their own life alone.

The brief adolescence is the last opportunity for parents to fully guide and cultivate their children, and it is also the last time for children to wholeheartedly rely on and need their parents.

Accompanying adolescent children is not only a duty as parents, but also an opportunity for personal growth.

Life is all limited edition, and being able to accompany children through their healthy and happy adolescence is the highlight of our limited edition life.

The love of parents is the strongest force for children to break free from cocoons and become butterflies, and also the greatest confidence in their lives.

I once read a passage that goes, “Adolescence is when you know you’re still a child, but you think you’re an adult.

But parents must never pierce through him, they must learn to carefully wrap him with love. When he transforms from a small insect to a butterfly, he will pierce through that thin film himself.

The task of adolescent parents is also completed. ” Caring for adolescent children is not about education and control, nor is it about overindulgence and indulgence, nor is it about demanding, but about insisting on giving, giving unconditionally and as much as possible.

Children who love adolescence, please remember to give ‘acceptance’. The book “Positive Discipline” states: “The best way to win over teenagers is to stand on their side with kindness, firmness, and respect.

” Even some ideas that you find childish and ridiculous can be understood and accepted. Don’t insist too much on the principle of right and wrong.

Over the past decade, your worldview, values, and outlook on life have already taken root and grown strong in his heart.

When parents communicate with their children, children are more likely to remember their parents’ expressions and tone of voice.

Most of the time, children and parents have conflicts not because of differences in opinions, but because they are dissatisfied with their parents’ positions and attitudes.

Making children feel trusted and understood will simplify problems and improve relationships. The instability, lack of self-discipline, and lack of diligence in adolescent children are natural phenomena in their growth process.

Therefore, when interacting with adolescent children, silence is the standard, companionship is the high-end, and empathy and understanding are the top choices.

Children who love their adolescence, please remember to give them ‘tolerance’. The growth of children lies in constantly moving forward, while the growth of parents lies in knowing how to give in.

In the world of adolescent children, there are imaginary enemies everywhere, and the parent-child relationship has become a war.

Only when the child wins, is it truly a victory. Adolescent children do not refuse communication, they simply dislike being disciplined and are unwilling to talk to their parents; What children need is not an enemy who can defeat them in words and actions, but a friend who always stands with them.

For those issues that do not touch the bottom line, give children ample room for trial and error. It can be reminded in advance, but one cannot be stubborn and force the child to fully comply; Summarize in a timely manner afterwards, with a gentle tone and concise and tactful language.

Children who love adolescence, please remember to give them “autonomy”. As adults, facing children will be more intense and brutal challenges and competition, and the ability to learn independently and innovate is the core competitiveness of future life.

If children fail to fully develop their ability to independently solve problems, manage themselves, and make independent decisions during their growth process, they will not be able to live independently and adapt to challenges in the future when entering society, and may even become “giant babies” with high scores but low abilities.

Make a “three chapter agreement” with your child, jointly set some learning goals, principles, and precautions for behavior boundaries, and then delegate tasks such as arranging affairs, managing time, and managing finances to your child.

Don’t worry about him losing control, even if Sun Wukong undergoes seventy-two transformations, he still can’t escape from the Five Finger Mountain of the Buddha, let alone a teenager.

Providing adolescent children with as much autonomy as possible is the cornerstone of paving their life path and helping them acquire the ability to control their destiny.

Children who love adolescence, please remember to give ‘help’. Adolescent children may say ‘don’t worry’ on their lips, appearing to be on edge and making their own decisions, but in fact, they are in the initial stage of understanding the world and grasping life.

Therefore, they particularly need the help and support of their parents. Parents should maintain patience, take the initiative to chat with their children, listen to ideas, and help solve problems encountered in life and study.

We should pay attention to our children’s learning and make every effort to provide resources and support, but we cannot monopolize or criticize them based on their grades.

From now on, in terms of children’s learning, what parents need to do is only to relieve stress, not pressure.

The help for adolescent children should not be dominated by the will of parents, but should be based on the needs of children, just right, timely and effective.