Click on the blue text above to follow us. It seems to be human instinct to criticize others. This instinct of adults naturally falls on children as well.
Looking back, I couldn’t avoid it either, maybe it was a teacher’s professional instinct, or even more serious than others.
I always have the habit of scrutinizing children with a critical eye. Criticism for not writing the homework neatly enough; The room is not tidy enough and is criticized; Not being polite enough to elders, teach them a lesson; After reading the book, if it is not returned to its original position, please remind me It’s like a child is a collection of problems waiting to be corrected.
However, as adults, we have forgotten that we are not perfect either. Adults may lose control of their emotions due to work pressure, become lazy and procrastinate in trivial matters of life, make mistakes in interpersonal communication, and even brush their phones on weekends without wanting to do anything.
It is normal for children to encounter problems during their growth process, just as we also make mistakes on the path of life.
When we focus our attention on picky hair disease, our children only have flaws in our eyes. This kind of picky behavior has also become the root of anxiety for both adults and children.
Children become timid, lack confidence, and even develop a rebellious mentality due to being constantly denied; Adults, on the other hand, feel angry, exhausted, and even greatly disappointed due to their children’s persistent behavior.
Adults and children have become “teachers” and “learners”. Over time, the parent-child relationship gradually became tense, and the family atmosphere became oppressive and dull.
We gradually stood in opposition to the children, who should have been the closest people, but seemed to have become each other’s’ enemies’.
Our habitual attention must have been misplaced. In the world of education, there must be something more important than finding faults.
We need to shift our focus away from the shortcomings of children and seek out the truly important things.
For example, cultivating a positive and optimistic attitude in children, enabling them to be strong and brave in the face of difficulties; For example, guiding children to establish correct values and enabling them to distinguish right from wrong and good from evil; For example, inspiring children’s creativity and imagination, opening the door to infinite possibilities for their future.
These are the core of education and the precious wealth that can benefit children for a lifetime. Don’t we make children enjoy reading.
Do we have any slight approval when a child is engrossed in a book and quietly reading it. (Shouldn’t we say: I’m reading these idle books again, have you memorized the lesson assigned by the teacher today.
) Don’t we make children treat their parents well. Do we feel a little proud when a child takes a big bag of items from their parents and runs forward.
(Shouldn’t we say: Don’t run crazy. If you don’t run crazy and still run, you’re really a disobedient child.
) Don’t we make our children study seriously. When a child has been thinking about a math problem for a long time and is still thinking, do we affirm their approach and comfort them to think carefully from different perspectives.
Mr. Ling, an education expert, said that the best way to remove weeds is to plant a big tree. We need to try to change the direction of our attention, turn picking flaws into picking strengths, and then support it.
It can be certain that every child has their own unique shining points. Perhaps his academic performance is average, but he has a kind heart and is willing to help others; Perhaps he is a bit mischievous, but he is quick thinking and creative.
Perhaps he is not good at tidying up his room, but when his parents ask him to help, he always quickly agrees to come downstairs.
When we start to focus on and magnify these advantages, magical things happen. Children will double their confidence because they receive recognition, and they will work harder to promote their strengths, becoming more and more confident on the path of growth.
And adults will also feel a sense of achievement and happiness in education during this process, and the parent-child relationship will become more harmonious and harmonious.
Seven education is a warm practice, not a process of constantly finding faults. Let’s let go of the picky ruler in our hearts, and use our hearts to discover the strengths of our children, nurturing their growth with love.
Let every child grow up and shine with their own brilliance in an environment full of encouragement and praise.
After all, in the garden of education, what flowers need is sunshine and rain, not a storm of nitpicking and criticism.
END’s previous recommended education is to not be a please type parent. Please read more philosophy and less chicken soup.
Education is to let children learn to choose education as early as possible. Being with children regularly is education.
In winter, let children bask in the sun more and become sunny teenagers.
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