Children who have been “regulated” and “not regulated” since childhood have two different lives after the age of 12

A child’s life is a microcosm of family education and a compulsory course for every parent, but different educational methods can shape vastly different children.

Children who have been “regulated” and “not regulated” since childhood often embark on completely different paths in life after the age of 12.

A disciplined child knows the meaning of rules and can follow order; Children who have not been disciplined are accustomed to following their own will and often find it difficult to control themselves.

This is not a natural difference, but a result of family education. A child who is under management, life is full of possibilities; Children who are not regulated and whose growth is hindered by regulation may not have the same “freedom” on their path of growth.

Parents will set rules for them, supervise them to complete homework on time, avoid playing with too many electronic devices, and strictly require them to know how to respect others.

Their childhood may seem to have lost some ‘happiness’, but it has been rewarded with strong self-discipline and perseverance.

After the age of 12, children under supervision have developed a certain level of self-control. They can resist external temptations and focus on their studies and hobbies.

In the future, their life path will be smoother and full of infinite possibilities. And children who are not regulated may have lived a carefree life when they were young, playing whatever they wanted, doing whatever they wanted, and being left unattended by their parents under the pretext of ‘their children are still young’.

But after the age of 12, these children often have difficulty adapting to school rules, falling behind academically, developing bad habits, and even having conflicts with their classmates.

Growing up without rules makes it difficult for them to form a correct view of right and wrong, and their future life is full of unknown obstacles.

Why are children who are “controlled” from a young age more likely to succeed. A psychologist once said, “Good education is like planting a seed of self-discipline in a child’s heart.

” Children who are regulated develop the following three qualities through repeated adherence to rules: 1 Children with strong self-control and being controlled learn what to do at what time when they are young.

They know that learning is for themselves and do not need repeated supervision from parents. And children who are not regulated are accustomed to letting go and often choose to escape when faced with academic pressure.

2. Understand the importance of rules. Rules are not limitations, but protections. Children who were “regulated” in their childhood understand the meaning of rules better and can adapt and develop better in society.

Children who are not regulated always think that the world revolves around them, but in reality, they repeatedly encounter obstacles.

3. Children who are managed and have the ability to solve problems know that they have to bear the consequences when they make mistakes, and they will also correct their mistakes through reflection.

And children who are not regulated are “used to” from a young age, and even if they make mistakes, they do not have to take responsibility, which leads to a lack of courage and ability to face problems when they grow up.

Children who are disciplined may seem bitter, but they are actually sweet; Untreated children are sweet when they are young and bitter when they grow up.

Many parents are unwilling to discipline their children, thinking that “happy growth is the most important for children when they are still young”.

But the softness of parents’ hearts may result in the sadness of their children’s future. Children who are subject to strict family education may have some complaints when they are young, but as they grow up, they will understand that it is these disciplines that give them the ability to overcome difficulties.

Children who are not regulated are often indulged when they are young, but as adults, they will find that they have missed many opportunities due to a lack of rule awareness, and even feel confused and helpless.

Children who have been “controlled” since childhood have a pair of “cruel” parents behind them. In fact, behind strict discipline is the deep love of the parents.

Supervised children can stop in time from making mistakes and learn self-restraint through guidance. These seemingly “cruel” discipline will eventually become the paving stones on the path of a child’s growth.

Children who are not regulated may seem “free”, but in reality, their parents have given up their responsibility for education.

Without parental guidance, children are easily lost on the path of growth. True discipline is the art of love discipline, not simply “beating and scolding”, but requires scientific methods and wisdom: 1 Make a rule from a young age that looks older at 3 years old and older at 7 years old.

Establish clear rules from a young age, such as following a regular schedule, completing tasks, and respecting others.

The earlier these rules are established, the easier it is for children to develop habits. 2. Violating rules and punishing parents in a timely manner requires taking responsibility for their children’s behavior.

When children violate rules, appropriate punishment is necessary, such as canceling playtime, reducing pocket money, etc.

, to make them understand the consequences of their behavior. 3. When educating children without emotions, parents should control their emotions and avoid venting their anger on their children.

Only by pointing out the problem rationally can children be convinced. 4. Parents lead by example. Parents are role models for their children.

If parents want their children to follow the rules, they must first do so. Using actions to influence children is more effective than any preaching.

The essence of education is to be responsible for the future of children. All parents hope that their children have a bright future, but this future can only be achieved through guidance from a young age.

Children who are under management will have unlimited possibilities in life after the age of 12; And children who are not regulated often struggle in difficulties after the age of 12.

The responsibility of parents is not to indulge their children’s temporary happiness, but to pave the way for their children’s lifelong happiness with love and rules.

May every parent learn scientific discipline, so that their children can go further and fly higher on the journey of life.

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