These three types of children are all “fake smart” and will have difficulty achieving success in the future. Parents should not be complacent

Parents often feel proud of their children’s “smart performance” and believe that they have a bright future ahead.

But in reality, some children’s displayed intelligence is just “fake intelligence”, which is not only detrimental to their growth, but may even hinder their future development.

Especially for the following three types of children, parents need to be vigilant and adjust their educational methods in a timely manner.

1. “Theoretical master” type: able to speak but unable to act, lacking in action. Some children have clear logic and excellent eloquence, always able to speak confidently in front of their parents, and even explain the truth fluently.

But when it comes to putting ideas into practice, they show slow action or even give up directly. These children are accustomed to making detailed plans, but they always stay on paper and fail to translate their goals into practical actions.

This kind of “false intelligence” often leads parents to mistakenly believe that their children are naturally intelligent, while ignoring the key factor of “execution ability”.

As French painter Corot once said, “Once you say it, do it, don’t procrastinate. ” Children without action, despite their active thinking, are difficult to gain an advantage in future competition.

Parental strategy: Lead by example: Parents themselves should act on their words and set an example for their children.

Gradually cultivate habits: Starting from small tasks, let children learn to set goals and complete them.

Timely feedback and encouragement: Provide positive feedback to children after completing tasks to strengthen their motivation for action.

2. “Glass heart” type: fragile and sensitive, unable to withstand setbacks. Some children perform well in good times, but once they encounter setbacks, they will be discouraged and even develop strong negative emotions.

These children often pursue perfection in their studies and lives, and do not allow themselves to fail.

Once the expected goals are not achieved, one may fall into self doubt. American psychologists proposed the theory of “eggshell psychology” to describe children who are sensitive and have weak psychological defenses.

They are unable to face failure correctly, only avoiding problems, and over time lack the ability to withstand pressure and think independently.

Parental strategy: Moderate letting go: Do not overprotect, let children experience small setbacks in life, and grow from failure.

Avoid high pressure: Reduce unrealistic expectations for children and focus on the process rather than the outcome.

Emotional support: When children show negative emotions, listen patiently and help them establish positive thinking patterns.

3. “Two hearted” type: focused on playing, scattered in learning, and “smart being misled by smart” is a true portrayal of this type of child.

They are full of energy while having fun, but unable to concentrate while studying. For example, being distracted during class and procrastinating on homework after class; Or learning and playing at the same time, and in the end, neither of them can do well.

Research has shown that it is often not intelligence, but focus, that determines a child’s academic performance.

If a child lacks concentration, no matter how smart they are, they cannot fully unleash their potential.

Parental strategy: Reduce interference: Create a quiet learning environment for children and reduce distractions such as electronic devices.

Guiding concentration training: Enhance concentration through games such as puzzles and drawing, and gradually apply them to learning.

Develop a study schedule: Help children learn in sections and gradually extend their focus time. From “false intelligence” to “true ability,” parents are the key.

“As mentioned in the book” Vulgar Things and Genius, “” Every child has the potential to become an excellent talent, and the key lies in their parents’ education.

“If parents can timely detect their children’s” false intelligence “problems and adopt scientific guidance methods, their children can benefit from it and grow into truly outstanding talents.

Parents need to set an example and act on their words. Children often imitate their parents. If parents can keep their promises, their children will also develop similar behavioral habits unconsciously.

Pay attention to mental health education, learn to accept children’s emotions, help them establish a healthy view of setbacks and a positive attitude, and let them see opportunities for growth in difficulties.

Helping children develop a habit of concentration. Concentration is the core competitiveness of learning, and parents should consciously cultivate their children’s concentration to lay a good foundation for their future learning and work.

Intelligence is a talent, but growth and success require postnatal effort. Only by guiding children to break free from the illusion of “false intelligence” and cultivate true abilities, can they go further and more steadily on their future path.

Parents, don’t be misled by appearances, but use wisdom and patience to accompany your children towards true success.