Being parents, anxiety is right

I have searched online for books related to family education, such as “Being an Emotionally Stable Mom,” “How to Talk to Children to Listen,” “Cultivating Good Children Without Roaring or Calling,” “Being a Calm Parent,” “A Good Mom Who Doesn’t Beat or Swear,” and “Dad is Not Absent, Mom Doesn’t Anxiety.

” I have seen many or few of the names of these books, right. These books are all good books, but how do you feel when you put them together.

Will it project onto oneself, feeling that having emotions is wrong, shouting and hitting children is wrong, and it needs to be changed.

Do you feel that the anxiety of those parents around you is self righteous and needs to be treated. No, no, no, anxiety is not a disease.

There is no need to feel guilty when experiencing emotions. This is a normal psychological state, and anxiety is right.

1. Nature is on Jiefang West Road in Changsha, where nightlife only begins at 11 o’clock and crowds gather around 2 or 3 o’clock in the morning.

This youthful energy makes many young people consider Changsha as a travel destination. Hey, have you ever thought that young people are like the sun at eight or nine in the morning.

How does a night owl represent the vitality of youth. Just take a look on the streets and you’ll know that middle-aged people usually don’t come out for entertainment unless it’s for work or socializing.

They care about their physical health, think about tomorrow’s work, and start worrying about the future.

Anxiety is the negative imagination of people towards unknown events. Worrying about the future is a psychological trait that is genetically endowed to middle-aged people.

This little background color is far from enough. After having a child, the anxious mentality will be magnified hundreds or thousands of times.

Have you ever kept goldfish. Have you ever seen goldfish laying eggs. If the goldfish in the goldfish tank lay eggs, if you don’t separate the fish from the eggs, you will see the goldfish eat the eggs they laid.

Hey, it’s strange that humans haven’t eaten their own children since ancient times, even if they starve to death.

Isn’t it said that selfishness is human nature. Why does nature become ineffective when it comes to parent-child relationships.

On the contrary, I am willing to sacrifice myself for the sake of my child. Before becoming parents, I had never attended a training school and no one taught me.

It’s still genetics, it’s natural for parents to worry more about themselves than their children. He’s not cold, you think he’s cold.

He doesn’t know why he needs to study, you force him to study. Even if there is a slight possibility of danger, you cannot sleep.

This is the nature of parents. Natural selection, survival of the fittest. Some animals do not care when they give birth, while others increase their vigilance after giving birth, preventing all risks in advance.

In the end, which species can survive. The answer is, there are ways to survive, it’s just different reproductive strategies.

The former one lays thousands of eggs at once, and if left unattended, they will always survive. The latter approach follows the path of eugenics and child rearing, especially for humans who only give birth to one at a time and evolve into “premature babies” without survival ability in order to walk upright.

Mothers need to overinterpret the risks that their children may encounter in order to ensure that everything goes smoothly.

Is the excessive worry about the future evolved by this organism anxiety. 2. Enjoying anxiety is not a disease and does not require treatment.

It is a psychological state that takes priority over selfishness. As parents, we don’t need to feel that it’s our fault just because we’re anxious.

Making mom not anxious is the wrong goal. It can directly deduce that without having children, there is no anxiety, right.

However, what I want is not to be anxious. For example, it’s like we’re hungry and want to eat something.

Can you say it’s wrong to be hungry. Do you feel guilty about being hungry. Do you want to be someone who is not hungry.

Obviously not. We need to accept our own anxiety first. Anxiety is right, anxiety is for us to enjoy the greatest happiness in life.

It’s like being hungry is the ability to enjoy delicious food. The process of generating anxiety and then resolving it, the process of turning uncertainty into certainty, is the process of parents enjoying the family affection brought by their children, which is incredibly beautiful.

Starting from the moment a child is born knowing nothing, practicing and learning at the same time, how to get along with them, and how to educate them.

As children grow up, we also grow up ourselves. The more we learn, the more confident we become. The process of learning for children is very stress relieving and enjoyable.

Spending time, energy, and money on children is not an investment, and there is no cost involved. The process of selflessly dedicating oneself to children is very stress relieving and enjoyable.

Being with children and understanding their changes. The more communication, the better the relationship, the more understanding, the stronger the certainty, and the process of accompanying children is very stress relieving and enjoyable.

3. Belief is important, no matter how beautiful the words are, they cannot solve practical problems. Anxious parents just can’t bear to see their children idle and always feel that they should push them harder, and their grades will be better.

It’s easy to stare at the excellence of other children, feeling that one’s own child is not up to par and hating iron for not being strong enough.

I just feel that my own children should have what others have at home, and then follow the trend by enrolling in many classes and buying a lot of stationery.

In the end, excessive expectations and pressure were placed on the child, all for their own benefit. What if the child is overwhelmed.

These starting points are all good, but the behavior has gone too far. So where exactly is the boundary.

This is the most distinctive and subtle aspect of education. I have some beliefs and methods to share with you that can make me stop.

The first belief: I can only cultivate my children to be like myself. This sentence has two meanings, one is that I cannot raise children from other families.

When setting learning goals and making demands for children, it is important to first consider whether one’s own family has a learning environment and whether one is good at meeting these demands.

If not, and the child is unwilling, then forget it. Secondly, I cannot expect others to raise children like me.

When your teammates are taking care of children or giving them to the elderly, they cannot do it without asking them to cultivate their children according to their own principles.

If you want to cultivate yourself, then take care of it yourself. The second belief: Response and demand each account for half.

As mentioned earlier, parents’ demands and pressure on their children are inherent in their sense of insecurity towards the future.

However, not responding to a child’s needs and only giving pressure is wrong. The basic principle is that no matter how long you spend with your child, you must respond half the time, demand half the time, and not go to extremes.

Especially for some parents who are very busy with work and have finally found time to spend with their children, they rush to give their children an education, which creates a lot of pressure and is not advisable.

It is also not advisable to only play a doting role of teasing, satisfying, or playing with children.

Half and half, if you want to set higher expectations for your child, spend more time with them. I don’t want my child to change
Relying on favoritism and arrogance, make demands for him.

Did I make myself clear. The third belief: a firm goal and an interesting process. Goals are in our parents’ minds, and children before puberty do not have them.

Even if they understand, they are not driven by goals. What children care about and experience deeply is the process.

Sometimes when a child recognizes the goals you set for them, they just don’t do them. Why. Because this process is too boring.

For example, asking lower grade children to do 100 mental arithmetic problems every day, right. Yeah, practicing numerical sense.

But is it enough to just make a request. Have you ever competed with your child. Do you know where the difficulty lies and how quickly to applaud.

Is there a chart showing the time and score statistics for each session, so that children can see their progress.

Do you encourage children. Is there a hug after finishing. Is there any accompaniment. Is there any sound effect.

Do you have any dolls. Is there a storyline. Is there role-playing available. Is there a reward set up.

Is there a random event. Fun is not easy, children may not be afraid of difficulties, they are just afraid of boredom.

When accompanying children in the process of learning, there are many other beliefs and methods for specific problems, which I have compiled into the collection of preschool children’s learning and primary school students’ learning companionship.

Returning to today’s topic, as parents, anxiety is right. Anxiety is because we have love for our children and hope for the future, and love and hope are the most precious treasures in life.